Category: Sexual Health

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Sex as a Habit

If you feel that your sex life became just another habit, sexologists have advice to change your way of thinking. Concentrate on intimacy not only on actual intercourse, because these are different things. You can’t expect that your partner’s desire will remain the same as when you just started your relationship without applying any effort. Everyday routine, lack of romance, can cause the fading away of any desire. 

When a person complains that he got tired of or fed up with sex with his/her partner, saying that he/she knows every inch of his/her body, the true reason for that can be the lack of communication between the two of them. Most likely they haven’t had an open conversation for ages. But you should always keep in mind that communication is vital for your sex life, as you have to permanently update your knowledge of your partners sexuality. Our sexuality doesn’t remain the same, it changes. Never stop asking your partner about his/her sexual fantasies, as it can easily turn out that you have no idea of your lovers needs and wishes.

A great number of problems in their sex lives is a characteristic trait of modern business women. After a hard work day they simply ignore their partners and their sex life doesnt take a leading place in the list of their priorities, which is totally wrong.

Another misconception is that only everyday sex can keep your feelings fresh and help to maintain sexual interest towards each other. But its not quantity, but emotional openness of both partners can preserve your sexual desire. Talk with your partner about your feelings, about the happy days you had together in the past.
When you are in a long term relationship its necessary to surprise your partner from time to time. 

Remember the joke this man is married for a long time, and he prefers to have sex lying on his right body side. Wonder why? Because its the most comfortable position to watch TV and have sex simultaneously. Therefore, never let anything distract you from love making process. This kills lust. Provoke and challenge one another for changes. For instance, if you think that he grew fat and that is the reason of your lack of desire, buy him an exercise bicycle. Or you can buy her 2 sizes smaller lingerie, so that she has the reason to loose couple of pounds. The main rule here is not to keep your dissatisfaction inside. Share your complaints with your partner. If you dont do that, the things will only get worse.

You have to apply all your skills to enrich your sex life. Turn on your imagination, creativity, all means and resources will do. The more extravagant – the better. And dont forget about sexy lingerie by the way.

Role play is also a great way to skip the routine and refresh your sexual life. Today you can play a secretary, for example, tomorrow turn into a school girl or a sexy nurse. Be different every day and never let your sexual life turn into routine duty.

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Got Orgasm?

Got orgasms

It’s a sad fact that, in these modern times, somewhere between 10% and 20% of adult women have never experienced an orgasm, and as many as 50% of women don’t orgasm during sex. Sexual and sensual education have advanced to where we now understand much more about the female orgasm, such as the fact that women have two completely different places they can stimulate in order to bring themselves to full satisfaction. Since the vibrator was specifically created to allow women to experience orgasms, it remains the best tool for women to discover what they enjoy, and what stimulates them in the best way to achieve the ultimate O.

The first step, of course, is acquiring a vibrator. Most adult stores are pretty cheesy and uncomfortable for women to shop in, which is why the internet is such a popular medium for adult toy shopping. Look at the pictures, read about the materials, and choose something you find attractive and that looks fun. This is the first step on a wonderful journey, so enjoy it! This is where The Blushing Pearl comes in!

To have the best experience with your vibrator, give yourself some time with it. Before you even switch it on, get relaxed and turned on. Take a long bubble bath, read an erotic story, get yourself in the mood. For most women, orgasms are as much psychological as they are physiological. If your mind isn’t in the right place, your body won’t be either. 

Get comfortable on your bed, on a rug in front of your fireplace, or just stay in the tub if you’ve purchased a waterproof vibe. Relax, start slow, and get to know your vibrator and your body. Touch different parts of your genitals with your vibrator. Discover what feels good, then keep doing it. Let your arousal build and let nature take its course.

There really isn’t any “right” way to use a vibrator or to bring yourself to orgasm. The most important thing to remember is that a vibrator is a tool to help you stimulate yourself; while it can help you reach a climax, it’s not an instant orgasm machine. You control it and use it in the way that feels best to you.

Experiment with your vibrator, try its different features, and apply it to different areas of your body to see what the sensations are like. Most women respond to clitoral stimulation, but you may prefer more or less intensity, or more or less direct stimulation. The labia and vulva are also sensitive.

If your vibrator is insertable, give that a try. Some women find penetration and vibration inside the vagina very pleasurable. A vibrator is the best tool you can use to find and stimulate your G-spot. This little node of pleasure is on the front wall of your vagina, a couple of inches in. It can take a few tries to find this spot, and not everyone who finds it actually likes it because of how sensitive it can be. Some women can’t find it at all. All of these things are normal, so you just have to see what works for you.

Many women need clitoral rather than vaginal stimulation to actually bring them to orgasm, so if vaginal penetration with your vibrator isn’t getting you anywhere, go back to using the vibrator on your clitoris. One technique you can use with a smooth insertable vibrator is to place the tip against your clitoris, then slide the shaft down between your labia, insert the vibrator and slide it into your vagina, and then bring it back up in a reverse stroke, sliding along the clitoris again on the way up.

Once you discover what feels good, keep doing it, relax, and let your arousal build. If you find that the vibrator brings you to the point of climaxing too quickly, back off and try a less intense form of stimulation, or even use your hand for a while and go back to the vibrator. Youll find that, like many things, the more you practice achieving orgasm, the easier itll become.

Learning how to orgasm during sex is whole different thing. One of the best things you can do is simply to masturbate often and keep all of your sexual organs in good shape. Masturbation helps your body to establish a habit of orgasming – if you can bring yourself to orgasm every time you get turned on, your body learns how to get there more easily when you’re having sex with someone else.

Easy, practical things you can do to help your body are drinking lots of water and avoiding alcohol to keep everything downstairs healthy and lubricated. Do your Kegels these exercises tone and tighten the muscles you use during sex, heightening the sensations you experience during sex. A set of Smartballs (an updated, silicone-coated version of Ben Wa balls) are a really easy, comfortable way to keep your PC muscles in shape.

If you are like most women, and you orgasm from clitoral stimulation, there are a hundred toys out there that are designed to stimulate your clitoris during sex. Probably the easiest to use are vibrating penis-rings, which your partner wears around his penis and has an attachment where you can insert a vibrating bullet. Another fun toy you can use during sex is a strap-on clitoral stimulator such a butterfly-style vibrator. Elastic straps around the waist and/or thighs hold a small vibrator in place while you make love. One of the more unique toys of this nature is the Vibrating Lovers Thong, which not only vibrates on your clitoris, but has a double row of beads that stimulate your lover as he moves in and out. 

Technology and research have opened up a whole new world of possibilities when it comes to female orgasms. Take advantage of what’s available, and you may find yourself fulfilled in ways you never imagined possible.

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Enhanced Sex Lives Can Lead To Healthy Marriages

Intimate marriage

A number of couples restrict themselves from talking about sexuality and their sex lives. Some are shy while others are reluctant to open up with their respective partners. This approach to sexuality can lead to ruined marriages. Sexuality is one of the key factors in having a healthy marriage. Sex is not just about satisfying each other’s libido or sexual desires. More than that, it is about effective communication and intimacy. Both partners should look forward to an entirely satisfying sex life along with the emotional connection that it entails. According to many health and marriage experts, it is normal for couples to encounter difficulties in their sexual relationship. Some of the common problems couples may encounter are boredom, lack of intimacy, low sexual desires, and lack of passion in sex. Another cause may be the failure of one partner to perform according to the expectations of the other party. 

Some wives claim that they often feel rejected when their husbands lack intimacy. Some of these sexual problems take a toll on the emotional and physical condition of people. There are people who gained weight and lost their self-esteem in part due to poor sexual lives. On the contrary, people who reportedly had active sex lives had become happier and closer to their partners. Robert Holden, a doctor who specializes on emotional health, says that sexual intercourse is not just an act of lust, but a form of communication and intimacy. He said that, …one of the big mistakes we make in relationships is that we don’t give our best energy to the people that matter most. And I think that people should make time to be able to give some of your best energy to each other. 

But what if one of the parties involved, particularly the men, fail to perform? Specialists advise men who have difficulty in their sexual performance to check and improve their lifestyle. Health experts believe that one’s lifestyle including food intake, daily work and domestic routines, and level of physical fitness all play a role to determine a person’s sexual health. They also believe that alcohol should be taken moderately since it is one of the major causes of sexual problems including impotence (erectile dysfunction) and premature ejaculation. A study on 17,000 alcoholic men revealed that after several years of zero alcohol intake, at least 50 percent of the respondents regained their normal erectile functions while the other 50% partially or completely achieved erection. 

High blood pressure is also a major cause of erectile dysfunction. A study published in the Journal of Urology in 2000 showed that 68% of men with high blood pressure aged 40-79 experienced erectile dysfunction at one time or another. At least 45% of these cases were considered severe erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction occurs because high blood pressure keeps the arteries that carry blood to the penis to dilate. This causes the smooth muscles in the penis to reduce its ability to relax, leading to inadequate blood flow to the penis that hinders the erection of the penis. In addition, high blood pressure in men may lead to low testosterone level. Testosterone is the male hormone that plays a crucial role in the male sexual arousal. Cigarette smoking and consumption of fatty foods are the leading causes of high cholesterol, which leads to high blood pressure.

Health specialists advise individuals to exercise and undergo other physical activities. These activities however should be done moderately to avoid over-training. Clinical studies show that proper exercise may enable the body to produce more testosterone. Additionally, a substance called endorphin is produced when people exercise. These endorphins gives periods of relaxation and bliss and relieve people who exercise of the stress and anxiety that they experience. 

Over-training, however, is one factor that is considered to contribute to sterility. An investigation by health experts revealed that over-training causes fatigue, which then temporarily reduces sperm count and affects its quality. Specialists say that this happens because the body literally kills itself during training. To build muscles and improve the body, it needs to recuperate to attain normal cell development. Intense physical activities may reduce the level of hormones in the bloodstream that affects sperm production. Medical experts believe that sperm levels return to nearly normal after about three days. They added that drinking coffee after a few hours of training may protect sperm quality because of the antioxidants that are found in caffeine.

Studies show that frequent sex between married couples lowers feelings of insecurity and increases the level of commitment. The whole process deepens their physical intimacy and strengthens their bond of love. Understanding sex between married partners may lead to improved and fruitful marriages. Openness, willingness to experiment, and mutual trust should be the cornerstones of a healthy, active sex life between married couples. After all, love is supposed to be fun and exciting!